When in doubt, I turn to my program manager Mia or my office mate Pak Pancho, an obstetrician with substantial international health experience. Mia is frank and honest though sometimes I am forced not to listen to her. “Please do not write your emails in Indonesian!” Mia often complains to me in Indonesian, “Bingun sekali! Saya tidak tahu yang apa Pak Wilson mencoba bilang. Pusing!” -- Confusing! What are you trying to say? Dizzy!
“Mia,” I ask. Her hair is covered in the traditional hijab and she has a matching ornate flowing gown, “watch this movie. I want to know what you think. It’s about the killing of a million people under Suharto in 1965. Filem ini nama ‘Act of Killing’.”
“Ooh, I want to see,” Mia licks her lips.
“I got scared after seeing this movie,” I said, “it made me think that perhaps I don’t know what Indonesians think after all, particularly about the Chinese.”
“They think that they are rich and smart.”
“But what explains the riots in 1998 and the killings in 1965?”
“Dumb and poor people always go after the rich and smart. A lot of people in Indonesia are sadly dumb and poor.”
“Poor yes, but not dumb. No one has ever given me a bad time.”
“You are tall.”
“Benar-benar.”
“There is no reason for people to give you a bad time. You came here to help Indonesia. You are tall. Some would say not bad looking. And besides you can’t understand what they say.”
Pak Pancho is more measured. “I don’t think things in Indonesia proceed this way,” he says furrowing his brow, “I think people judge according to acts and gestures.”
“Anne says that being of Chinese descent is a disadvantage,” I say, “but I feel like it is an advantage. I am Asian! I feel like I have things in common with Indonesians and it is very comfortable for me here.”
“That is great,” Pancho says, “I think your experience is a good guide. White people often think that they are special and they are especially if they think it!” Pancho laughs.
“I can only go with what seems right.”
“That is the only way, Pak.”
* * *
This new year, Seongeun and I are invited to a 4-hour lunch at Husan’s parents house. Husaan’s father Pak Gho founded and still runs a successful steel production and trading business in Kota. Pak Gho is the man who sponsored me to play basketball last fall at the 21st Annual International Chinese basketball tournament in Wuhan China.
“But I am 43,” I told Hasaan when he presented his father’s invitation.
“It’s a tournament only for men and women over forty,” Hasaan laughed.
And indeed it was. The biggest division was actually the fifty to sixty-year-old division. Pak Gho played in the seventy to eight-year-old division. Watching Pak Gho’s team made me appreciate the passion that the game of basketball engenders for young and old while making me regret my lack of adult/geriatric sports injury medical experience. As is custom for men, their bodies degenerate at a much greater rate than white matter synapses recalling former athletic prowess, even greatness. Pak Gho may have just had cardiac surgery last Spring but he sprinted, dove and heaved up just like the rest. It was many things to watch, but aging gracefully was not one of them.